how to get UNSTUCK + finish the year STRONG đđŒ
In todayâs post weâll chat thruâŠ
â What MOST PEOPLE tend to do this time of year + why youâre DIFFERENT.
⥠How to CHECK YOUR HABITS + do a little AUDIT to get UNSTUCK.
âą Why SMALL TWEAKS are going to help you have sustainable success.
⣠And how to make PROGRESS even if your SURROUNDINGS arenât SUPPORTIVE.
LETâS DIVE IN. đ€
Happy FINAL WEDNESDAY of Q3 my friends!!! We have ONE QUARTER of the year leftâŠisnât that wild?!
One of the things we LOVE around here in The Self Care Sisterhood community is taking a moment each month to hit pause and do a check in. Itâs actually one of the exercises I do in REAL TIME in The Sisterhood Membership space. We REFLECT + CONNECT with the past month. And then PREP + VISUALIZE whatâs ahead and the moves we wanna make.
But if youâve followed this podcast since the beginning youâll know I love a good QUARTERLY CHECK IN around here. IDK what it is about the fall but time and time again I see it with the women I work withâŠ
THIS IS THE TIME OF YEAR WHENâŠ
We gravitate BACK TO HABITS that no longer serve us.
We believe the lie that it can't be BOTH. For exampleâŠyou canât be busy AND take care of yourself. Thatâs just untrue. It can be both.
We count ourselves out without really knowing what weâre capable of.
We delay our success by waiting for the New Year.
We act like we don't have a choice. But friendsâŠeverything's a choice...not choosing is choosing.
ITâS EASY TO GET STUCK IN THE FINAL QUARTER OF THE MONTH AND DECIDE YOUâLL JUST âWAITâ FOR A NEW YEARâŠBUT FRIENDSâŠwe both know that a New Year is not a givenâŠlife is happening RIGHT NOW and you can make PROGRESS no matter the calendar date.
And. we both know that those patterns arenât really serving you.
So letâs dig into a DIFFERENT pattern in this final quarter of the year. Letâs get UNSTUCK + make some moves towards what matters most to usâŠBEFORE THE BALL DROPS. Self care in this space is all about taking DEEP OWNERSHIP + RESPONSIBILITY over your life and if youâve been feeling stuck thatâs like a RED LIGHT indicator that something is off so today I wanna help you slow down and maybe see where some shifts can happen so that we can finish 2023 confident of all we became, did, and grew into this year. I have three areas I want to nudge you to focus on that will be helpfulâŠesp if youâve been feeling a little stuck but you so desperately want to finish this year STRONG.
1. CHECK YOUR HABITS
Life is all about your routines and habits. And hereâs the dealâŠroutines that once made us feel like we were freaking CRUSHING IT can actually become a rut that makes us feel like weâre stuck. Thereâs a fine line between a ROUTINE and a RUT so itâs a little tricky and itâs where I find a lot of people get stuck. Theyâre âdoingâ the things that once helped them make progressâŠyet they arenât moving the needle.
Iâve been there. Iâve had ruts in terms of my morning routine. Iâve had ruts in regards to my business goals. Iâve had ruts when itâs come to my workouts. What was once a routine that served my highest self became a rut that made me feel like I wasnât making much progress. And those have been HUGE SIGNS for me that itâs time to switch something up.
Routines ARE your secret sauce for success. So as we head into the final quarter of the yearâŠYESâŠI want to encourage you to embrace routines and habits that ground you, make your day smoother, and help you become the best version of YOU. It's that morning me time that grounds you for the day. Or your afternoon walk that helps you release the stress of the day. Itâs a night time tidy routine that helps you ease into the next day. Or a weekend prep and reset that sets your weeks up for success.
But letâs talk about the fine line between a routine that is propelling you forward and a rut that is keeping you stuck.
You probably know when you're in a rut. It doesnât feel like progress. Instead it feels like SAMENESS every day and itâs DRAINING for your spirit.
Simply putâŠ
routines = progress
ruts = stuck.
As we head into the final stretch of 2023 letâs do a HABIT AUDIT. I love to ask a few Qâs:
What habits are leading you closer to your goals?
We donât celebrate ourselves enough ladies. So weâre gonna start with where we ARE getting it right. What habits are currently in sync with your goals? These are the ones that, when you do them consistently, make you feel confident. Maybe itâs the daily walk you take? Or therapy you schedule once per month? Maybe itâs your weekly Bible Study. Maybe itâs that you increased your business earnings this year or you stepped out in faith + action towards a dream on your heart. Maybe youâve said BYE to diets and started cooking at home again or it could be the gym membership you still use. Whatever it isâŠCLAP FOR YOURSELF + KEEP THOSE HABITS GOING.
What habits are moving you away?
Next letâs get honest about the habits that arenât actually serving the direction you desire. These are the ones that deep down you KNOW are not helping you level up. It could be your social media scroll, hitting snooze every day on your life, the way you speak to yourself, or that glass of wine every night when you wind down. Acknowledging the habits that are no longer serving you is the first step to getting unstuck.
AND THENâŠKeep in mind that something that ONCE SERVED YOU might now have you feeling stuck. ROUTINES CAN BECOME RUTS.
As you grow itâs okayâŠitâs actually ESSENTIALâŠthat your goals grow + evolve, too. And when your GOALS growâŠyour HABITS + ROUTINES need to follow + evolve with them. A habit that served you in one season might need a makeover and thatâs called GROWTH. So don't be afraid to give them a facelift to better suit your current dreams + vision.
Last note that I wanna DRIVE HOME when checking your habits is that most of the habits that will GROW + SUPPORT your best self are what a mentor of mine called TNT.
Meaning. They TAKE. NO. TALENT.
Friends. Habits tend to require zero talent. Consistency requires ZERO talent. Showing up takes. no. talent. SeriouslyâŠitâs about making choices and sticking with them. Most of the habits you track aren't just building your goals; they're shaping your LIFEâŠyour CHARACTER. It's kinda wild when you think about it. So letâs stop putting habits on this pedestal like itâs too hard for you. It takes no talent to scroll social media or binge watch Netflix or pour that glass of wine. Itâs simply something weâve put on REPEAT. And yet those are habits that have shaped my life at certain points.
THE UNCOMFY PART IS THAT checking your habits requires choosing CHANGE over STAGNATION.
But friends. Truth love. What you're not changing, you're choosing. Every day is a chance to make choices that are in alignment with your goals. Embrace that power of choice and swap out anything that has become a rut for habits that move you in the direction of your desires.
2. MAKE SMALL TWEAKS.
I know it can be tempting to want to go ALL IN and make major changes when we sense something is off. In my life this has never served me. Iâve always seen the most SUSTAINABLE success when I make SMALL TWEAKS to what Iâm already doing.
This has looked like đđŒ
â«ïžgoing meatless on Mondayâs instead of full on vegetarian when I first began to explore the idea
â«ïžswapping out sugary coffee drinks for healthier homemade options instead of removing all sugar from my life
â«ïžgoing from NEVER working out to adding in 3 or 4 30 min workouts / week instead of a full on 7 day per week 2 hour gym routine
â«ïžand even in my spiritual journeyâŠit started with Joel Osteen on TV each week before diving fully into a church and small groups and studying the Bible.
All real things Iâve done in my own life that show it doesnât have to be this ALL or NOTHING mentality. Thatâs often what causes us to get stuck in the first place. In our physical journeys sureâŠbut in everything. That dream on your heart that you never share with anyone bc you feel like you donât have all the tools or talents to pull it off. That business you wanted to start but fear kept you playing small with one foot in and one foot out, so it never really took off. That desire to dive into your spirituality but you werenât as âpureâ + âjoyfilledâ as that other girl was so it felt like it wasnât for you.
All or nothing is killing all of that in your life. Friends. Youâre allowed to START SMALL. Youâre allowed to GROW BIT BY BIT. Youâre allowed to do things IMPERFECTLY. Sometimes all we need is a tiny adjustment to help us gain momentum.
SO. What habits aren't serving YOU IN this season? What needs a small tweak?
Whatever those small tweaks areâŠhere's your permission slip to shake things up:
Set the alarm for 30 minutes earlier or later to match your body's natural rhythm.
Use your lunch break as a creative space to work on your passion project.
Dedicate 30 minutes on Sunday to map out your game plan for the week ahead.
Embrace the cooler weather by moving your workouts outdoors and enjoying the fresh air or trying something new.
Take the leap + sign up for that course or membership that's been calling your name or that you KNOW will help take you to the next level.
Try podcasts instead of physical books to help you grow or vice versa.
That thing on your heart? Those goals you have? They arenât just goals. Theyâre the catalyst to help you grow into the next best version of YOU. Every goal Iâve had has taken me on a JOURNEY. And that journey requires CHANGE.
And that "meh" feeling you've been having? Think of it like a check engine light for your soul. It's telling you to pay attention and give yourself what YOU NEED so you can continue to make moves. And oftenâŠwhat you need isnât monumental. Itâs a small tweak.
3. CHECK YOUR SURROUNDINGS.
Have you ever heard the saying, "Youâre the sum of the five people you spend the most time with"?
Iâve talked about it here in this space before but as we pause and reflect I think it's a powerful reminder that the people you surround yourself with can have a profound impact on your habits, routines, + behaviors.
Attitudes are contagious. And YESâŠso are habits.
Ever notice how spending time with positive, motivated individuals can leave you feeling refreshed and inspired? That's because attitudes are contagious. When you're in the company of people who are passionate about growing and making progress, their energy can rub off on you.
Think about the space you're in right now and who is a part of that. If you're surrounded by people who are on a mission to level up their lives, you're probably inspired to do the same. This kind of circle can radiate positivity, passion, and a drive for being your BEST SELF. My friends who are pursuing purpose + impact INSPIRE me, MOTIVATE me, and PROVIDE SUPPORT when I need it in my own journey. And my hope is that this podcast space can provide that for you, tooâŠesp if you donât physically have it.
Bc thatâs exactly where things can get a little sticky.
It's OUTSIDE of those supportive spaces where you most likely encounter challenges. Maybe you have friends, family members, or coworkers whose attitudes and habits just aren't aligned with your goals or vision for your life. And itâs toughâŠesp as we creep into the holiday seasonâŠbc most of us canât just remove them from our lives completelyâŠnor do we necessarily want to, right?
This is where itâs ESSENTIAL that consider what weâre CLINGING to. Iâve had to do this so many times in my life when my inner circles arenât moving me forward. I have to CLING TO THE COATTAILS OF WOMEN WHO ARE MOVING IN THE DIRECTION I DESIRE. I like to call them mentors from afar and theyâve been everything for me in these seasons. Theyâve taught me how to SHOW UP + OWN the life Iâm creating, unapologetically. And itâs rubbed off to the point that I can pass it along to other women.
Positive habits othersâ have rubbed off look like đđŒ
â«ïžmy morning routine
â«ïžmy spiritual journey
â«ïžhealing + getting into therapy
â«ïžgood restâŠslowing downâŠliving with intention
â«ïžbeing mindful of what Iâm consuming (mostly with my eyes + ears)
â«ïžboundaries + discipline over my life
â«ïžkeeping my priorities as a top focus for my YES / day to day
SO I WANT TO ENCOURAGE YOU THAT YES. YOU CAN MAKE PROGRESS EVEN IF YOUR CIRCLE ISNâT SUPPORTIVE.
Itâs all in what youâre clinging to. And. Just a random thoughtâŠ.
But if you donât have the person leading you to level upâŠwhat if YOU became that person in your circle? Maybe God is calling you to be an EXAMPLE for others bc you donât have it for yourself. I meanâŠit has to START WITH ONEâŠwhy not be the one who ignites that fire for others? Just some food for thoughtâŠđ
As we wrap upâŠI know you made it this far bc you are feeling STUCK. And I also know you made it this far bc you DESPERATELY DESIRE to finish the year STRONG. Sis. Youâre doing amazing. Maybe no one has reminded you of that truth lately. That you are GROWING and that GROWTH IS STICKY. It requires navigating whatâs no longer serving us on the path to our purpose. And thatâs not easy stuff. So yeahâŠgrowth looks good on you. But Iâve also been adding a little caveat to that latelyâŠ
âŠso does GRACE.
Give yourself GRACE as you navigate this path. Youâve never done it before.
I LOVE that youâre taking this pause to reset before heading into Q4. If youâre the journaling typeâŠmaybe set some time aside in your morning routine to considerâŠ
WHAT DO YOU WANT TO ACHIEVE BY THE TIME 2023 IS OVER?
WHAT HABITS NEED TWEAKING IN ORDER TO GET THERE?
AND WHO + WHAT MUST YOU SURROUND YOURSELF WITH TO MAKE THIS HAPPEN? HOW CAN YOU BE âTHE ONEâ IF YOUR CURRENT CIRCLE ISNâT INSPIRING YOU?
Feeling stuck is a common experienceâŠesp for us high achievers who so desperately want to go out into our worlds and love + serve others well. But just bc you feel stuck today it doesn't mean thatâs how the year has to end. By doing a little habit check, making small tweaks to anything that is no longer serving your journey, and getting really honest about your surroundingsâŠI promise you can regain your momentum and finish the year strong. TruthfullyâŠmomentum and getting unstuck require ACTION. So what can you do TODAY that will move in in the direction of your desires BEFORE THE BALL DROPS?!
Remember that change takes time. I know we want to get to that finish line so bad, but friendsâŠwho youâre BECOMING in the process is the PRIZE. So be patient with yourself. Offer the grace you offer so freely to others to YOURSELF. And remember to get out there this week and TAKE CARE OF YOU so that you can go out into your world and love + serve others from that space of overflow. Iâm always rooting for you and I canât wait to hear + see how taking action and finishing this year STRONG. Do me a favor and screenshot this episode and tag me @inspirebeautybritt with your light bulb / fist pumping moments so I can celebrate WITH YOU. đ€đ€đŒ
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